Buck Wacker- Went thru all your same motions last year with my 10 year old son. We also used Remington youth 20 ga. My nephew had borrowed it for many years deer hunting and left red dot scope on it. So we just left it on and it worked great for him and dont have to worry to much about site alignment when they look down the barrel. He is not a big kid 75 lbs, so at range i had him shoot low base shells to gain confidence and I shot a few of the real 3″”turkey loads” to confirm choke pattern. Put in the real loads on game day, he never knew the difference when he was finally able to pull the trigger on his first turkey. Hopefully Spring conitions are better this year. 10″ of snow on the ground in May when he shot his. Good luck