14 years must have some real blessings. Marriage is very tough and requires a lot of effort on each spouse’s part. I am always finding changes I need to make in my own life in order to have peace in our marriage – 43 years in June. You can’t change her, only yourself. I find Christian values to be a tremendous help in overcoming marriage relationship issues. Although Christian marriages fail at the same rate as no christian, I believe it can work all things out given a full commitment. If you have interest, I can help you locate the spot on the spot in Scripture to start looking for help. PM me for more info and some web pointers for some Christian marriage help.