First off, your in our prayers!
How I kinda see it is she is constantly surrounded by greif and grievence at her work and helping others try to deal with it and knows she has to keep strong.
But with anything, your work comes home with you and in that field of work how can she not stop think of your daughter.
She is constantly dealing with some type of grief and never give herself a chance to think about anything else.
I don’t know if this is making any sense… like mentioned earlier, she might need to find a different line of work. Something that doesn’t involve grief and grievence.
I hope that makes sense!