The Passing of Jim Lindeman, my Dad

My Dad unexpectedly passed away at the age of 62. He wasn’t around much when I was a kid, which still bothers me. We had some good years together…. hunting and fishing when I was a bit older. He got me started in the outdoors… starting with camping and trout fishing SE MN streams. Then grouse hunting in Northern MN, then duck hunting. Much of my outdoor enthusiasm I owe to him.

But then… the alcohol really started to take over again in his life. And things got rocky again.

It’s with mixed emotions that I post this. Here he is 2 years ago, with my then 6 mos old daughter. Either way, I’m gonna miss him.

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Sorry for your loss. He was young as was my dad when I lost him. While everything might not have been peaches & cream cherish the good times you spent together.

Very sorry to hear, my condolences.

I lost my DAD 59 yrs old..The young man I was I always claimed my path as mine,as an older man of 59 yrs now,I realize how much my path was his also.
As dutch says, cherish the life he was.

Sorry for your loss! DK.

Embrace the good, pardon the bad. You’ll live happier. Sorry for your loss. Prayers for him in his journey and to you in yours.

Your story isn’t much different from mine. You have a lot to be grateful for. My dad passed when he was 60, almost 18 years ago. He was an alcoholic as well. He never met my wife or my children.

Your parents have a huge influence on your life. The rocky parts fade over time. If they don’t, you have reason to worry and potentially seek treatment for yourself so you don’t repeat the cycle.

The good times begin to shine through.

Sorry for your loss. You’ll need some extra time to fish (and hunt) this year. It truly is therapy. Hopefully that’s in the cards for you this year.

Tom Sawvell wrote:

Embrace the good, pardon the bad

Very well said! You have the choice to dwell on the good, or be consumed by the negative. I just lost my mother back in Jan. It’s easy to be angry for the time I lost because of her addiction to pain meds and what Colon cancer did to here. I still strugle with that at times. But it interferes with the abundance of great memories of her with my daughters.
Our condolences for your loss and in time, I hope you find strength in the good memories you have.

lindyrig79 wrote:

My Dad unexpectedly passed away at the age of 62. He wasn’t around much when I was a kid, which still bothers me.

We learn so much from our parents…for the things they do, or don’t do. I can think of my parents and remembered what they didn’t do which bothered me, I made sure not to repeat that raising my own children. If anything, he taught you not to follow his footsteps in that disappointment for you and ultimately your children.

But I remember more about how much they loved me despite their own demons they were fighting. Take note that there are those who can love their children dearly, but are very bad at how to show or express that.

Sounds like there are at least a few of us here (and perhaps everywhere) that have experienced our own “histories” with life struggles.

And as you said…”Either way, I’m gonna miss him.”

Condolences

Lindy,so sorry for your loss.
as others have said,dont dwell on the not so good times,it will consume you,I know all too well.
one way to honor him if I may,if it were not for him,we wouldnt have you !! think about that a while,many others lives have been affected for the good because you are here,your family,your friends,and all of us here on IDO.

I lost my dad when I was twenty nine years old,he had just turned sixty.
it wasnt until a few years after he passed I understood the reason why he drank the way he did.
war kills more than the enemy,it just took a little longer to kill my dad with the things that haunted him day and night.

RIP Jim,thank you for bringing Lindy into this world so that we can call him friend.

Sorry to hear about your Dad.

I recommend you read the book Wild at Heart.

Sorry for your loss lindy condolences to you and your family.

Condolences to you and your family Lindy. From what you’ve posted it sounds like you have a good grasp on what went well and what didn’t with your father and you’ll be able to apply those lessons, both good and bad, as you raise your own family.

Sorry for your loss lindy. Remember the good times. RIP Jim. Prayers sent.

My thoughts and prayers for You and your Family !!

RIP Jim and may your journey filled with peace.

Sorry for your loss Lindy. Rest in Peace Jim

Thoughts and prayers sent. We all have flaws, some are struggles that we have that are not easy. I am certain he would have wanted to have done things differently for you and has regrets, Alchoholism and any addiction is a real struggle for the person. Its difficult for those of us who have control to understand.

My story of regret is the opposite. I lost my dad when I was 19 and he was 53. I was one of those brooding teens who didn’t realize how well I had it or how hard my parents worked and loved us. He passed just as I was beginning to appreciate all he had done for me and understand what he meant to us.

Sorry for your loss. I lost my father when he was 62 also. Like you we had a rocky road we traveled together. I don’t remember when but later in life, for me, I understood the big picture and it was clear to me what I was given and what I lost and treasure those good memories.
I Now wish I had more time to know him better.

So sorry for your loss.

I second everything Andy said, well well stated.

Sorry for your loss.

Tom Sawvell wrote:

Embrace the good, pardon the bad. You’ll live happier.

Wise words

Sorry for your loss.

Wish I had the energy to thank you all individually. This post has given me some support that I have needed.

Some very wise, and very kind words. Thank you.

Tom Sawvell wrote:

Embrace the good, pardon the bad. You’ll live happier. Sorry for your loss. Prayers for him in his journey and to you in yours.

lindyrig79 wrote:

This post has given me some support that I have needed. Some very wise, and very kind words. Thank you.

The beauty of IDO, some great people with comnpassion for their fishing and hunting brothers and sisters!!!

Rest In Peace, Jim Lindeman… God’s Speed to you and your family…

Mark

My heart always breaks when I read these posts and it always leads me back to my own Dad passing.

I keep telling myself I was just lucky to have known my Dad as many folks never had one for one reason or another. Still doesn’t cut it though.

Our thoughts are with you Lindy.

Hey buddy, I was thinking about this last night and in a round about way Jim is also responsible for getting me into waterfowl hunting as you were the one that introduced me to it. Jim had no issues with us coming down (my first time) to the spot that you guys had been going for years. The slew was a little more packed that year and he was fine with it.

I will never for get that first trip……he will be missed!

Sorry for your loss.

I am sorry for your loss.

As stated, enjoy the fond memories and let go of the rest. I was not close to my dad who passed about 9 years ago. In fact there was a lot of resentment from me about how he disappeared from our lives and was down right ornery when he was around. At the wake I put all that away and tried to see what others remembered of him.

Sounds like you were able to reconnect later in life. Enjoy those memories and forget the rest.

Likewise, buried my mom Saturday morning. Now I’m left with a sister that wants to make things right and another that is adversarial at every turn. My last suggestion, do and say things that you won’t regret later and make the most of the time we have left.

A lot of good words and experience to learn from . Never easy losing anyone that has loved you or you them. Lost my mom at 52 Dad at 58. Alcoholism a major factor.They were not perfect parents , but i know they did the best they could at the time. Dad got sober before he died. I hated my dad for years, until i got sober. Realized i could not stay sober myself and keep staying angry at him . He was human and made mistakes and i had to forgive him , to move forward.