My father has been in failing health for the last couple years. I’m the primary care provider and get a break once every 4 months ish. Not complaining. But I have no support and no back up. That’s the part that’s most stressful
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I’m in the same boat. My 97 year old Dad is my 24hr a day job now. My “time off” is early morning at the grocery store before he gets up. My Brother was here last week for 2 days. But he is caretaker for his wife. That gave me time to go to dentist, get a haircut, have the truck worked on and see accountant.
BUT only one of my friends have the opportunity to take care of their Dad. I asked a good friend, a smart girl, many years ago why she bought such a big house (7 bedroom, 3 bath in International Falls). She told me “I don’t want to look back someday and wish I did more for my parents”. Those words have stuck with me for 35 years. They did move in with her.
Sometimes you have to be the adult.