There is a reason for a specified torque especially with aluminum wheels, the steel axle and the aluminum hub expand at different rates with temperature.
If you under torque an aluminum wheel it will work itself loose and you will lose the tire and wheel.
During winter months this is more critical when the wheel is allowed to warm up during a tire repair and its placed back on a cold axle and we demand customers come back in when they have driven a hundred miles for a retorque or have a qualified shop do it and sign our ticket.
Now, to your problem with the nuts not coming loose, if it has been a long time since it was off last, fords have a nasty habit of corroding between the steel mounting flange and their aluminum/magnesium rims.
That corrosion can grow to several thousands of an inch thick in short order effectively trying to push the nuts off of the stud, in a sense it increases the load on the nut several pounds making it almost impossible to remove.
I have had decent luck trying to tighten the nut, then try loosening it, a great air impact usually helps.