OK, another one to add here. Just thought of this one last night.
Mrs. Grouse and I didn’t know the gender of either of our children before birth. We both had our reasons, I can’t know or even speculate because of a cultural tradition that says that to do so brings down 21 years of bad luck. The specificity of that number, 21, always made it especially worrisome to me. Like not just two decades of bad luck, but 21 years.
Mrs. Grouse, on the other hand, just didn’t see any reason to know. It’s one of the last great surprises in this world, why spoil it? So went her reasoning.
We didn’t think it was that big of a deal, but after having person after person ask if it was a boy or a girl and then seeing the absolutely thunderstruck look in their face when we said we didn’t know and wouldn’t be finding out until delivery…
We didn’t think it was that big of a deal, but let me tell you… In this day/age it seemed like we had just told people we were jetting off to the planet Zog to give birth or something.
Even more strange was that some people would try to talk us into it. The reaction of some people bordered on outrage. They would invent “practical reasons” why we HAD to find out. Like there was some kind of health risk associated with not knowing the baby’s gender.
How will you know what color to pain the baby’s room? We painted it apple green, works for both.
What about people who want to get you gifts? Isn’t it impolite to NOT tell them boy or girl? Ummm, maybe put a hold on the shopping expedition until baby is born and then we’ll all know?
You won’t be able to pick out names! The child will be nameless for months afterward because you didn’t know which gender. Ummm, yeah, we just get to pick out one for each. Then we sit back and wait. Not a problem.
In fairness, some people told us it was really cool not to find out and one couple even told us later that we inspired them not to find out on any of the 3 children they had. But they too reported the same reactions.
My obsolesce is really hard on some people. Mrs. Grouse is kinda that way too, but she’s much hipper about it than I am.
Grouse