What you’re describing sounds more like an insurance company problem than a doctor problem.
You have to understand that now it’s really the insurance companies that are dictating much of the care you receive and the order you receive it in by nature of what they will and won’t pay for. They also dictate the ORDER in which care must be delivered, so essentially the insurance company is now as much in control of your healthcare as your doctor is.
For example, my wife just had hip surgery, but even though the ortho said there was no way anything except surgery would heal this tear, the insurance company mandates that he HAD to send her through a course of PT sessions first. Again, the ortho said to her that this was like prescribing PT for a broken arm, but appealing this would take weeks and actually delay the surgery. So off to 4 weeks of useless PT she went, just to satisfy the insrance company.
Insurance companies now dictate that before seeing a specialist in certain cases, the primary care doctor’s treatment has to be given a period of time to work. Again, it’s all about cost cutting and limiting your choices.
Also, because of the insurance company’s RX formulary, doctors now often have to try a cheaper medicine first, even if they feel a more expensive one offers a better chance. The insurance company will simply deny payment unless you follow their rules.
The key here is to start asking questions about why your doctor is following the course of treatment he’s following. Is it what he/she wants to do or is he/she doing it because the insurance company mandates it be done this way?
Sorry that both your wife and daughter are having health problems, but I suspect your frustration with the course of treatment is being driven more by your insurance company than the doctors.
Grouse
The theory behind this is based on statistical evidence. Not that I agree with it.
Patients often turn to multiple providers for resolution.
The provider can only see the care they delivered. They cannot see what happens to the patient after they leave. For that reason, they do not have all of the data to create the probabilities of outcomes based on given treatments. This is a common issue for care givers. They issue a prescription, PT, surgery, and or Rx, and never see the patient again. They don’t find out how it turned out for the patient.
The insurer can see all the care sought by the patient regardless of provider visited and aggregate up all of the treatments through the outcomes to see which treatments create the best affordable outcomes.
IMO, this process needs an easier way to be bypassed when the outcome Dx is clear.
Anecdotally, I had a coworker go through the same mess. Stepped off a curb while on vacation and thought he sprained something. Saw his Dr after returning home from vacation. Rules said he had to go through PT.
He had a torn cartilage in his hip. During that PT the torn cartilage broke up worse and ended up with bone on bone in his hip socket.
Had he gone through arthroscopic surgery instead of PT it could have been fixed right away. Instead he ended up with painful cortisone injections in his hip while waiting for a painful hip replacement surgery.