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The most important thing you and your girlfriend can do for your child is to get along with each other and never argue while he is around. A child in this position feels very insecure and is caught in the middle of this as he loves ”both” his mom and dad. He doesn’t want to be hurt, doesn’t want to hurt either of you, and very much needs you both. Its very important that your son is never put in a sitsuation where he must choose either parent. He loves both of his parents and its very important that he has time with both of you. I have gone through a divorce before and we have kept things decent for our 4 childrens sake. Thats a must for your children. I raised my 3 youngest children myself since we divorced and would of loved to have had my oldest son with me too. Being a father is a very important role and one that I love doing and being. If you can settle things nicely and get along for your childs sake it will be much better for all of you. My prayers are with you. Take care.
Thanks, Bill
and if i can add on to what Bill has said, be a bigger person and don’t belittle or put down your girlfriend to get him to like you best. I had that happen when my mother and father divorced, and I am still trying to figure out what is fact or fiction. I gave up, but when i was a kid, i was always affraid of my father because of what my mother had said. my father didn’t get into the game much, but every chance my mother got she would put my father down. I still get it, I am now 30, and every time she sees me, she tells me that i look exactly like my father and she despises him. how do you think that makes me feel, even at 30, pretty unwanted. give you kid support, be there for him/her, and never put down or make rude comments about the other around him. otherwise you will be paying for counseling also
shane 
) hath no fury as a woman scorned”! Retaining a lawyer is definately a priority.
