Reel, check out Cabelas Guidewear Thinsulate Parka (item #1K-922545 at web site). Have had one now for several years and it is my “go to” parka for all the descriptions you gave. It is my winter coat for everything outdoors from walking the dog, open water boating in the fall to ice fishing at 10 below. It absolutely knocks the wind out, is warm and not heavy like some of the 3 in 1 or 4 in 1 systems you see. Plus, who wants all those extra parts to keep track of? I just want to throw on a parka and go.
I see by the website that XL is not available. But tall large is as is XXL regular. If they don’t work send them back. It will cost you a few extra bucks (it is on sale) but I have found that I am set with this parka for a long time.