My wife and I are going to meet a birth-mother who has chosen us as possible adoptive parents for her child tomorrow (friday). We have tried to have children of our own for the past 9 years with no success. We have now been in the adoptive process for 3 years. On two prior occasions we had been chosen with both falling through. The first we spent three months taking her to doctors appointments, we were there for the birth, and even named the child (still has our last name). She changed her mind at the court hearing that we were to bring the baby home from.
The second call came last fall, only two days after my mothers funeral. We had gone through 6 months of cancer treatments, and watching her slip away (what timing). We thought it was destined, and that my mother was pulling some stings upstairs for us. Mom was heart broken when the first adoption went south. The birth-mother had given the child the name that I had told my wife I wanted for a little girl before we even met her. The baby had already been born, and we made several trips to see the baby and birth-mother, with birth-mother saying several times “I hope you two don’t change your mind about the adoption”. After 2 1/2 weeks her family stepped in saying the baby would stay in the family. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, but this emotional roller coaster ride needs to be over soon. So if you have a spare moment, say a word or two for us. Thank you, and god bless……
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Hang in there!