To put a perspective on it, management is regarded as leadership. No matter how it all comes together, it’s the “leadership” that gets recognized.
Now, if you’ve got a REALLY good leader, he’s going to mention that he didn’t get there alone and couldn’t have done it without the talents of his team members. If he’s WORTHY of his leadership, he’ll actually pursue a “is this possible” type avenue to see if there is anything he can do for you specifically.
In many cases, this can’t happen because it causes everyone else to whine about their 2% contribution, even if yours is 75% of the whole. To keep up morale, they weigh 10 happy people vs. one unhappy person and side with the majority. If you do not see this their way, you have a bad attitude. Therefore, TACT is absolutely critical. You “cannot tear the rice paper while walking towards the pebble.” (Kung Fu reference for those who aren’t as old as I am)
The advice to document all you do is very good and should be exercised. Make it a habit because one day, the door may open and you will want to have the preparation that demonstrates your worthiness. It may even make the difference one day regarding who stays, and who goes. CYA=CYB=Cover Your Butt. Chances are that the only person interested in looking out for you, is yourself. But the key to your rise in true leadership will also balance the amount of interest you show in the success of others (namely, the boss man). When you become the boss man, a new balance must exist. You depend on the talents below you so this interest must diversify and blend the successes of both those above you and those below you. Do this well, and you may find yourself getting a “business vacation” as well.
Take time to read leadership books/methods/principles and objectively mentor with someone who IS where you want to be. And don’t let it overtake your family life. This balance is difficult and very few achieve it…… but it has the highest level of personal satisfaction, no matter the level you achieve.
Good luck and do not be discouraged. You CAN rise above this but only a positive attitude will get you the chance. Negativity is a discourager great enough to alter confidence in both yourself, and others around you.
Embrace the truth, smile, pat yourself on the back, treat yourself with a nice dinner or activity, kiss the wife, hug the kids, and move on.