newlywed

First of all, I would like to thank everyone on this site. I found this site by mistake, and it is like a breath of fresh air with all of the positive and funny posts. I gave up with the other negative sites out there.

Ok, I have not owned a boat in five years. Since then, I got married She is from Japan, and does not understand why I have to have one. So… I bought one anyway(used)

Took her up to the pond and it seemed like I was taking her to shore more than I was fishing. Is this normal? I mean, this is new teritory for me, and I don’t know what to do or say to her.

Any sugestions for a newlywed?

Thanks,
Joe

First off, Congratulations! Both on finding this site and the marriage.

As for any suggestions, I would just say don’t force it. Go in baby steps where the wives are concerned! If she wants to go to shore, take her. If she wants to quit, let her. You don’t want fishing to become something she resents and won’t let you go do willingly. Good Luck!

Welcome to one of the best fishing sites! Period!
Now..About your “problem”……..Some women are different when it comes to fishing, Mine for instance dosn’t really care to fish. (I might be lucky some say)She dosn’t want to go all the time.Hardly ever really.
Sounds like yours is at the opposite end of the spectrum! Which is fine.I guess you’ll have to let her know how long your planning on being out and let her make the decision to go or not.Coming from a different culture and so on it might be hard for her to understand what the “need” is for a boat and the sporting aspect of fishing.
Just my .02 cents worth. Good luck.

If your wife walks outta the kitchen to yell at you, what did you do wrong??
Made the chain too long!!!

On a more serious note, I agree with the above. If you can ease her into it, sorta like a kid, you can have one of the best fishing partners you could ever ask for. Good Luck.

Congratulations. Hey, you’ve got a wife that’ll join you in your boat, so you’ve got that as a plus. Things I’ve done for my missus, I bought one of those portable urinals with the female adapter. That worked for a while, but then I suggested that she use the livewell. I rarely keep fish, so it’s basically all hers.

You get to a point in marriage where peeing in front of the other is no big deal. Took a trip to Mexico and we both got Montezuma’s revenge. One bathroom, no fan, and the door had wooden slats in it. Every sound heard, every stink sniffed. Now, nothing is a big deal.

So take her to Mexico for the honeymoon, and you’ll have a fishing partner that can stay all day.

So take her to Mexico for the honeymoon, and you’ll have a fishing partner that can stay all day.

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WOW- There is some marriage wisdom- Listen to your wife have diarreah and she will be a good fishing partner- I bet you dont find that in many books on marriage

I just pm Cat… I’m rolling!!

When I read she was wanting to go to shore all the time…that’s exactly what I was thinking…ladies have a small(er) bladder.

That was spoken by a true proffesional Cat!

Welcome to the lighter side of IDA Lindy-Joe!

Ps…I don’t think it was a mistake you found IDA!

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Ps…I don’t think it was a mistake you found IDA!

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Nope, this guy belongs here!

Welcome Aboard Joe.

Ok, here is a few things. Yes ease them into it and don’t force it. Secondly Bathroom breaks as suggested above, if you have a livewell or 2 or a bait well or 2. Mine uses the Front Baitwell, just bring toilet paper. Another thing to try is a 5 gallon bucket. Let her do her thing throw it over the side and rinse. You ar egoing to like it here. Congrats on the Marriage

first question…

is it a bathroom break that she wants on shore ?

the water does strange things to people, and people react differently to water…

just ask Ripper and his gal

Welcome to IDA

Thanks to everyone! It was mostly for bathroom breaks, but I feel at times she was just not having fun. I married a great gal, and would never change a thing. I was just hoping that she would enjoy fishing half as much as I do. Oh well, I guess I should just find another fishing partner and not force it on her.

Again, love the site. It seems that there is alot of people here from the metro area and nearby. I also like that it is not only for one type of species, even though everyone knows that Muskies are the only fish that matters

Take care all,
Joe

Not to worry on the wife being the fishing partner Joe,

I have been with my wife for a lot of years (since ’77) and she still doesn’t like to fish much…She loves the water but not so much the fishing part…I think i have tried to force it to much…

good luck and maybe just get her out for the beautiful sun rises and sun sets the lakes and rivers have to offer !!

Another Mushy fisherman!

Now Gary will have someone to talk too….

Bob and Dan…

Maybe try a much smaller body of water as that huge of a lake might make her nervous which could cause her to have to make more bathroom runs. As she gets better than gradually move to bigger waters. They also make uronals [sp] that you can get an adaptor that screws on for women to use. Have her try that if she would. Bring a beech towel to block the view of her going in it from others that you would hold up to block the view. Hope this helps.
Thanks, Bill

congrats on the marriage and working to get you wife out in the boat. My wife likes to fish but now with the little guy she doesn’t go with me but would like to. The little guy nate took a ride with us for the first time and the wife realized what I have been saying for a while ” i need a bigger “Family” sized walleye boat” . So after the vacation I got the “official” nod to start the boat fund (that was already started) and for her a travel fund.

The short story is, it is give and take as with any marriage. Start slow as everyone else said and try to have fun. Go for a after dinner cruise (hide the fishing rods ). But let here know that is it not always about fishing. Sometime a little quality time may help her understand the joy of being on the water.

Or just do like I did, lobby for bigger, “safer family sized” boat. That way if kids are in the future you are one step ahead.

Derek

My wife wouldn’t use one of those johnnie things for all the fish in Mille Lacs. You guys have some real troopers there!

My wife named an island in Canada “Potty Island”

The BOP (Boss of Putz) didn’t fish at all when I met her 35 years ago. Now she uses an ice cream pail in the summer and Hunter’s outhouses at 22 below in the winter. She even outfishes me at times. I’ve created a monster. But a good one! Just gotta give them a little time.

The Favorite Wife’s ice cream pail is hunter green…to match the boat.

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So take her to Mexico for the honeymoon, and you’ll have a fishing partner that can stay all day.

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That is one of the best morals to a story that I have ever heard!

Lindy-Joe

If she wants to go with there’s no reason she has to fish. My wife just hangs out on the boat most days. Bring a good book, some fruity boose for her and have fun with it. For us it’s not about fishing (well for her) it’s about being in the sun and on the water.

I let her plan a picnic and we always look for a good spot on shore to pull off for it. (Breaks up the day for her.) This also keeps her involved and makes a protion of the day about her. As time gooes on you will find that you will pack more sh!% in the boat. Don’t say anything! Just be glad she’s going with.

I just want to add one more thing. My wife also didn’t fish really when I met her. She saw how much it was a part of my life and tried it and now she loves to fish. She usually wants to go more than me. Even when it is 100 outside We did find out though while we were up in Canada she does get a little sea sick when she goes out several days in a row on 1-2′ waves didn’t help on a couple days either. Just try to make it fun and realize that it isn’t all about “you” and fishing. Just remember she now owns 1/2 the boat….if her half wants to go to shore you go because without her half you “WILL” sink!

Cool!
Another musky stick! (or as Briank puts it: MUSHY)

Congrats on the marriage. I’m kinda in the same boat (yes punn intended) as you……….Wife loves to go boating, but hates fishing, and she is deathly afraid of water, as she cannot swim. To her, fishing is boring…….pointless, because everything I catch goes back, or I spend all day on the water just to come home and brag about the “1 fish I saw today”……..About the only sport my wife likes is baseball……..She actually thinks that is a game of talent and purpose…….football is stupid in her eyes……….

When I do take her fishing, it is about a 1 hour trip, because she is board to tears………

Best bet is not push it onto her, but show her your passion for the sport. I’m always in the garage, messing with my fishing junk……..my wife doesn’t get why, but accepts it.

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The Favorite Wife’s ice cream pail is hunter green…to match the boat.

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Hey that was the pail you let me keep my snacks in when we went out

My wife goes out with me every now and then. The bonus is I can use extra rods , the downside is her attention span rivals that of a 2 year old boy with ADD

I always make sure she has a couple magazines, maybe a fruity beverage of choice, and the mutt comes along for her to play with. If we need to make a quick shore run, we run, if she wants to go in, we stay until I can’t stand the complaining anymore

Stick with it, if she is a keeper, and she sounds like it, she will understand your love and learn to deal with it. And it never hurts to have a Happy place to get away from her every now and then.

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Hey that was the pail you let me keep my snacks in when we went out

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I rinsed it.

Gary, it’s nice to see another Muskie guy here. Do you fish the Croix often? I got the boat a couple of weeks ago and fished White Bear a few times with only one fish in the boat, so I am going to start hitting the river.

I don’t know about the bucket thing, unless I get her a Hello Kitty bucket to go in

This is exactly why I am addicted to this site.

Joe

well congrats on finding this awsome site, also congrats on the marriage. like most married guys have already said, just take her for a cruz. what I did one night was take my wife out on a lake, then anchored up and watched the sun set and just hung out and didn’t even talk about fishing. but the good lookin one loves to fish, but she don’t bait her hook or take the fish off either. so guess my husbandly duties are to make sure that she can keep on catching fish while I am missing all the ones that are biting my line. even for our honeymoon, we went up to the farm and went out fishing 3 morning in a row, she outfished me, and also caught the biggest crappies all 3 days. but we went in the morning and then did something that she wanted to do in the afternoon. just remember to communicate and compromise, meet in the middle, and also let her know that she don’t have to go out every time with you, it is ok for her to stay home and enjoy her day shopping or something like that.

shane