Even when a boat and motor are properly set up (best motor height and best prop), trimmng the motor up will eventually cause it to cavitate and blow out. When starting from an at rest position, it usually works best to trim all the way down to get the best hole shot. Then, as the boat comes up onto plane, it usually works best to trim up to get best performance. Trimming up is sort of a trial and error process, and the exact position will vary depending on the load in the boat and the wind. If the boat starts to porpoise, you have probably trimmed up too much. Even at optimum trim position, you may need to trim it down a bit when turning sharply.
I may have misunderstood what you are saying, but it seems that your boat may be set up pretty well; and you just need to experiment more with trimming.