Bachelor Party Question

I am the best man in my Brother’s up coming wedding, and I have very clear orders that the bachelor party is not to have any strippers. So, I have my orders, BUT. I spoke with my soon to be sister in-law’s brother lastnight, and he asked if we were getting any exoctic dancers. I made it very clear that I HAVE MY ORDER, and didn’t know if he had any. He assured me that he has none, So I told him that he should do whatever he feels is necessary, and that this is a black opp. Do you think I am in the clear here, or am I dead? Please advise quickly as I am sure he is going to be calling around, if he hasn’t already.

Personally, I don’t think you’re doing anything too wrong. You could always say that there was a mistake with the “talent” agency and you thought you were getting a clown, or something…
Seriously, though eventhough your brother has given you his orders, you can probably guess where those are coming from.
I would say when it comes right down to it, you best do what you fell is right.

It’s better to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Just make sure you cover your brothers butt if the bride to be finds out……..GOOD LUCK!

Come on man, you know better than too even ask. No matter what you do you are dead Time heals all wounds

I will have the same request for my bachelor party not because I dont like strippers but I have seen first hand the things that happen, Ill save my stripper adventures for other times I honestly would think twice before you have any type of that entertainment if he requested not to, you may severly tick him off, just my opinion. That doesnt mean ya cant suggest headed to the strip club, worst he can say is no, get him lit first, its always a good idea then

Fishinbuddy,

You’re dead … but it’ll be worth it!!

John

I would just say you accidently stopped at the Purple gentlemen’s club a mile from your house.

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I would just say you accidently stopped at the Purple gentlemen’s club a mile from your house.

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Yeah! You took a wrong turn! You thought you would stop for some fireworks but ended up across the street.

I was involved in one of these black-op’s once. Trust me, when it comes to strippers there is no such thing as a black-op. Someone will talk and eventually the new missus will find out. It may take 1 month or 10 years but she’ll find out. Not a good way to start a marriage. Do everything but the stripper.

Tell your brother that all you are doing is getting all the guys lined up for the party, and that his soon to be brother in law is making all the party arrangments, and you have no idea what he’s planning!!

I think it is a good possibility that if you get dancers, someone will be chewing on a piece of your about this, no matter what you do.

Hmmmm…..It’s a BACHELOR PARTY. These are meant to have your one last hurrah before you are tied down for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. I don’t think anything else needs to be said

I would do what the groom asks. The FIL will likely be there and he may not take kindly to it and may be the reason for it. If he groom is the type of guy that goes for strippers then take him to a strip club before or after.

The party should be for getting together with his friends before he gets married and not about how wasted everyone can get and having a stripper there to boot.

Oh and last weekend in my area there was bachelor party. They played a drinking game something about holding a guy up by his feet. He was so drunk and everyone claims he was passed out on the floor when they left. The thought is he died of achol poisoning and his wonderfull buddies dumped the body to stay out of trouble. Havent found him yet.

Good luck with this one….you have strippers and possibly tick off the groom or worse tick off the bride….you don’t have strippers and some people might think you are lame.

You might want to find out why you were given the specific orders…..if the bride to be said she will call off the wedding if she finds out there were strippers….you might want to skip the strippers because eventually it will come out…one way or another.

my party consisted of a bbq, horse back riding and then a night at the bar getting lit up, no dancers anywhere, and that turned out just fine, although my headache seemed to last for a few days.

shane

Buckshot I think you hit the nail on the head, it is a tough call but the most important people are asking that you don’t have the strippers they are the only ones that you need to make happy the other guys will have just as much fun.
You can always drink beer and get a good game of poker going either way good luck to you all.

My experiance with being a best man has been that you are just not going to see much of your freind anymore anyways. Might as well woop it up.

Okay bro here is the way To pull this off and make the bride look bad. Ya that’s right the bride will look bad and keep all questions silent. If you decide to have strippers for the groom do it and have fun, don’t do anything that you shouldn’t.. A great way to keep him in the clear would be to get male strippers to her party with nobody know who sent them. Don’t let her find out who sent them. Okay now the two are even, and she will be so worried that he will find out that she won’t even speak of strippers. I would tell nobody your doing this.
Now it really depends on what type of woman the bride is. My wife would tell me strippers showed up and they had a great time. And that would be fine but I would be dead if I had them at my party. The whole double standard thing.
Just an option for you to ponder.

Good Luck
Adam

Your Toast!!

So I have a Bachelor party tonight We rented the “Big dick express” from a local tavern. Its a great big charter bus. The bar said they would give us a deal if we came back to their bar from 12 to 2. Then give the strippers that are going to be at the bar a ride to work I don’t know why the strippers are going to be at this bar. I’m not sure how 41 guys and 6 strippers on a bus is going to work……

But good luck with your party. A definate no-no if the FIL is there.

I dunno — the FIL was at my bachelor party… with entertainment. He had a great time — we still laugh about it today. The gal, (my wife) was ok with it, so it was a little different for me…. but I wouldn’t kill the FIL in all cases — you know best there.

My thought is that there is no doubt that entertainers will bring a little life to the binge – and no one says the groom needs to end the night with a shiney zipper.. my brother (and best man) took the brunt of the entertainer’s stunts at my party… so if you swing it right…

But I think the guys are right… each situation is different and you’ll make the right call.

Have fun!!

Alright, here is a womens opinion……….Get the strippers

It’s a bachelor party……..isn’t that what everyone does!

I don’t think there should EVER be a problem with seeing strippers, especially if it’s for a bachelor party. If you don’t trust your significant other to behave, then you shouldn’t be with them.

So have a bachelor party that you won’t forget

Nicole

I agree with Nkrista.

Don’t know much about B parties…but have the bride drop in…er..well…maybe not…

If you have your “order”, why are you asking us?

I have been in on a couple bachelor parties,designated driver position. My advice…do as requested skip the strippers and get some movies ( your choice on ratings) you’ll save a lot of bucks and didn’t go against anyones wishes.

If you EVER want to do ANYTHING with your brother again,
now would be a good time to start building trust with SWMBO.

Just come right out and tell her that you don’t want to cause a problem between her and your brother so you’d like to know what she thinks is acceptable vs unacceptable. Then ask her if going to a club would be an acceptable alternative since it is a more controlled environment than having the girls come to the bachelor party.
You’re gonna have to deal with her for the rest of your brother’s life . . . might as well start making it easy NOW!

Ok, we have established that there are to be no Strippers or exotic dancers. Was there any mention of hookers?

Just Kidding! Better stick to the game plan or there will be hell to pay.

At my brother in law’s bachelor party, we got him a stripper. No one said anything to the women for probably a year. After a while they found out but by then it didn’t bother them too much.
Just do it, keep your mouth shut and have fun.