This is a thread started from a PM of a friend of mine. I thought it would be a good place to vent, find support….and even cry on someone’s shoulders.
Please feel free to tell us your horrific experiances here.
I’ll be back later to share my 25 years of pain…. 
Remember, at IDA we are here to support one another!
See I for one don’thave a problem with this, if she out fishes me, it’s still fish in my boat, and I’m happy, of course it is rare that she out fishes me, but it happens, and yeah I get just as much grief as you guys do. I told her she can out fish me anyday. 
The way I see it,…. I’ll let her have the glory for the short term, but when I’m out socializing 
and she brings it up???? 
I just think to myself, its my boat, my knowledge, my rod, and I tied that lure on that I picked out.
With that said, honestly when I take someone fishing that doesn’t get out as much as I do or doesn’t have common fishing knowledge, I feel its my duty to make sure they’re on fish and having a good time. I could care less if I catch anything. I JUST DONT WANT TO HEAR ABOUT IT THE FOLLOWING WEEK!
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The way I see it,…. I’ll let her have the glory for the short term, but when I’m out socializing
With that said, honestly when I take someone fishing that doesn’t get out as much as I do or doesn’t have common fishing knowledge, I feel its my duty to make sure they’re on fish and having a good time. I could care less if I catch anything. I JUST DONT WANT TO HEAR ABOUT IT THE FOLLOWING WEEK!
I fell the same way. I just don’t like typing.
Ron
Never had the opportunity to develop these activities in my first marriage. 
The gal I married a year ago has hunted (deer) and fished (walleyes & crappies, nothing with lips) all her life. She routinely outfishes me, even though I have tried my damndest to catch up with her…
The best thing- I am one of the few men in the US that get brownie points in our relationship for when we go walleye fishing in Canada I’m the one to say, “You know, dear, I would NEVER consider going fishin’ in Canada…but for you dear, I’ll have to go…..” Try saying THAT with a straight face….. 
So keep lettin’ them out fish you…. 
My wife does pretty well, but if she starts bragging too much I invite her to sit in the back of the boat and run the outboard, the trolling motor, the depth finder, keep us on structure, put the anchor up or down, or any of the thousand other things I get to do as “captain”. She hasn’t taken me up on the offer yet. 
Rootski
I think the title says it all…I thought it was jsut supposed to be that way. When I first met my wife, over 30 yrs ago, we talked a bit about fishing, enought to know she had done some. Well, fished some on our honeymoon, and first vacation the next year, we fished. I think just about every year for 20 years she fished, or outfished me, and then with different schedules for work, she didn’t fish for several years. This year, I will get her out in the boat, and I’m sure she will do well again. I have to agree, if I take her, or kids, or anyone fishing, I am thrilled if they’re on fish and doing well, then I worry about me. The best part is, she fishes, and you can’t beat that 
dave
Yep, my Sweetheart consistently puts more and bigger fish in the boat than I do! I finally figured out why this is. When we go fishing together, she likes to read, not fish and whenever I have a hook up, she jumps up and insists on reeling it in! To make matters worse she loves to brag about out fishing me. Well, I finally cured her of the boasting. I had her sign a Confidentiality Agreement !
which I keep in the folder with the Pre-Nuptial Agreement she had her attorney draw up! 
All I can say about these posts…so far is…..
If that’s what makes you feel better!
You KNOW you guys hate getting shown up by your better half! Just can’t admit it…at least in public!
HI! My name is Briank, I hate it when my wife shows me up fishing!
HI! My name is Bret, I to hate it when my wife shows me up fishing!
Wow it works Thanks Briank, I feel better already
hi my name is matt, I’ve been outfished for 5 straight years now.
alrighty……whats the next 11 steps?
Looks to me, you are taking the next step
Brett, you are so right. Admitting it is half the battle!
Two…maybe three years ago, I went to Gander Mtn and picked out a new walleye spinning outfit. I spent a good sum of money, somewere around $160.
First time out the little Mrs was along, we were trolling for close to a half hour and my wife had two in the boat…me zip. Since it was a new rod, she asked if she could try it. I knew I shouldn’t have…but what do ya do in a corner.
Yup! You guessed it…less than 15 minutes later…there were a half dozen boats and cruisers parked watching here fight a nice fish…with my new rod. Once we had the ..just over 5 lbs walleye into the boat…the on lookers all APPLAUDED!!!
GAWD! I HATE THAT! If it weren’t for her telling me to settle down and act my age…that rod would be at the bottom of the Croix today.. no doubt in my mind.
True story.
I really loved that rod until then
Recognize the Higher Power….and you are well on your way!
well,
i’ve got three boy 12,8,7 that out fish me i’ll be damned if i’ll let her out fish me too. or that i’ll admitt to . i just can’t do it
Brian buddy i have to admit mine has never outfished me yet to date but im not going to talk too loud though as you never know. Shes a worm and sinker fisherman even when im catching them other ways.
Mossy, quit leaving her on the dock!
I’m still waiting for one person to post here…apperently he’s still in denial. T1? You might have to help him come out….
Brian, does this pic look familiar? 
Sure does Wade…. Tamara has quite the hog there…lets see…If I remember correctly…just to help you out of the closet here….
You gave her… YOUR rod while you were messing around with something or other… when the rod bent. all he11 broke loose and she landed that babe?
I know…I know…it’s hard for you to talk about it…but that’s what we are here for. Just relax…take your time and let it come.. friend. Posting the picture is the first…baby step. You’re in good hands with the guys and gals of IDA . They can take it from here….
My job is done…
Ps Tamara, my wife would have had that picture made into the front of our Christmas cards…just to put me down one more level of therapy. 
Although I’m not married yet…my girlfriend either out fishes me or catches the biggest fish. I never seem to be able to capture both. I love fishing with her though…I wouldn’t have it any other way. It makes me a better fisherman in the long run. It does suck though when you have to put on a leech. Or this is my favorite, she went out and bought some baits because they were “pretty.” I looked at the Rapalas and Spinner baits and just giggled and told her she would never catch any thing with them. To date her two favorite spinner baits have easily out fished anything I’ve used and her one favorite Rapala has caught 3 of the biggest eyes I had in my boat last year. All because they were “PRETTY.” So how do you like that BrianK???
Krisco,
Athough you say “I wouldn’t want it anyother way” now… the ring isn’t on your finger and it’s very normal for guys to say things like that. You are in what we in the trade call “Pre Marital Denial”. It’s the early stages and unless you area a properly trained professional, wouldn’t see it comming.
Part of this is because of the “Pretty Lure Syndrome”. It confuses the untrained and the unsuspecting focuses on “how does that work?” Instead of the true problem of “I’m really oinked at her” (for out fishing me). It’s a common ploy until your married, then the gloves come off and she will make you feel small and irrelevant in your own boat.
My perscription? This is a self help forum at this time…although I can see it growing to haveing to have to take appointments….the next two or three times you go out with her…bend the hooks on those “pretty lures”…gain the upper hand and you’ll feel much better about yourself and life in general. If the two of you are still seeing each other after that…you were made for each other and will expect an IDA invatation to the wedding.
** The suggestions and advise contained in this forum are not endorsed or even agreed with by the In-Depthangling Staff. Always check with your medical doctor before proceeding with anything contained here in. Alway wear a personal floation device. A degree or degrees is not implied to be held by Briank, although many place a BS behind his name and sometimes in front of it.
Thanks for the advise BrianK. I’m glad you rescued me from what could be a horrible mistake I have all of her pretty lures in my tackle box. guess I will have to get out the file and needlenose to take care of those hooks. 
Oh and how do FLAT spinner blades work???
All in a days work Jeff!
Well ok I’ll admit she does have her days and whoops me. The bad part is I think she is secretly training our son to do the same. So her birthday is monday and I asked if she wanted a new rod and reel combo…….. Geesh did I get “the look”
My wife can whup my butt also. She will fish with anything as long as it is a jig and a minnow. If that is the lure that is working that day, I’m history. But contrary to this thread, I love it. It gets her on the water more, which gets me on the water more.
Since I am stuck at home today with a case of gout instead of fishing with Brian as planned, I have time to start a new thread dedicated to our wives before we get into too much trouble here. Also I need the practice with my scanner.
This is by far the funniest forum I have ever read on IDA. I’ve been sitting here reading and chuckling. Briank with a BS, with all your vast knowledge on this subject it seems like you are helping a lot of men deal with this problem.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
The best thing- I am one of the few men in the US that get brownie points in our relationship for when we go walleye fishing in Canada I’m the one to say, “You know, dear, I would NEVER consider going fishin’ in Canada…but for you dear, I’ll have to go…..” Try saying THAT with a straight face…..
Hey Plastx…I got one of those wives too. One thing about it there is always a fishing partner for us. HUH?
It does have its advantages.
Briank…My perscription? This is a self help forum at this time…although I can see it growing to haveing to have to take appointments….the next two or three times you go out with her…bend the hooks on those “pretty lures”…gain the upper hand and you’ll feel much better about yourself and life in general. If the two of you are still seeing each other after that…you were made for each other and will expect an IDA invatation to the wedding.
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Sure does Wade…. Tamara has quite the hog there…lets see…If I remember correctly…just to help you out of the closet here….
You gave her… YOUR rod while you were messing around with something or other… when the rod bent. all he11 broke loose and she landed that babe?
Ya, ya! That’s it. It was all me…
Oh man, I guess I’m back in that denial phase again.
Let me see… How does this go again?… God, grant me the serenity to…
My wife isn’t at that point yet, but I hope to have her out fishing me soon. That’s the least I can do since she “Made” me by a new boat this year. At one point I had decided against it and she “convinced me” that we needed it. Am I ever glad I didn’t let this one get away.
stg113
stg113, This is fairly uncommon but highly effective ploy to get the unsuspecting husband into their trap. It’s known as the “blackwidow syndrome”.
Typically the wife learns about you (this doesn’t take very long) and when she realized that you have an interest in fishing…almost forces you into buying a boat. Commonly it’s a bigger boat than what you would ever buy for yourself.
Once you have the boat, your attention is drawn way from thier true motives.
Then next step in this phase is when you want to go fishing…she’ll find an excuse not to go. Too cold laundry to do ect. This gives you time to really get to know the boat and to make the unsuspecting victom/husband/boyfriend really believe that she allowed you to buy a boat….just for you.
After the fourth or fifth time out…your’re still feeling all warm and fuzzy…. out comes the more common tactics refered to above…the pretty/cute lure, the fishing with the open face upside down, fishing with the crank bait that has a 1 oz keel sinker attached to it’s nose. And of course my wifes favorite…reading a book, fishing for 5 minutes and out fishing me in those five minutes.
113, it takes a trained professional to recongize these “traps”.
At this point, your prognosis is grave at best. Some research has been done with labratory rats…with limited sucsess.
Since it’s gone along this far, your only hope is to take along a camera. In fact you may want to have a couple disposables in your boat. The reason for this is when the end is near…her fishing will sneak up on you like a snowshoe hair in 12 inches of fluff. Then, if you don’t have a way of recording the event, not only will you then realize your fate…but you will never hear the end of it.
Good Luck…and I’m sorry I had to be the one to break the news to you.
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