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Here is what concerns me. This weekend he told me he wants me to take his boat and just take him fishing I go. He feels he can’t handle it anymore (alone). He’s 67, not 87 and actually in decent health. Just curious if anyone has ever gone through something similar. Any input?
As you have already allude to, Wade, there are two parts of this equation: Your dad. And you.
One of you is dealing with the psychological implications of getting older, the other is dealing with the psychological changes of watching a loved one age. I would hasten to add here that an advanced understanding of the physiological does not prepare one for dealing with the personal psychological burden. That journey is personal and no amount of academic understanding will present you with a shortcut or an end-run around the issue.
Certainly depression is a possibility and I would say that EVERYONE should treat depression-like symptoms just as we would treat symptoms of heart attack or stroke. Depression is a medical condition, not a character fault. If you see real signs of depression, make an appointment and go with your father to discuss it with his doctor.
But on the other hand, it could be just you, Wade. Seriously, your dad may just be tired on a very practical level with dealing with the hassles of boat ownership and he may have very logically determined that the fun isn’t worth the hassle. Especially when he can outsource the maintenance hassles and expense to you!
So I would explore with your father and determine if it’s just that simple. Along the way, you may discover something about WHY he enjoys fishing. Hint: It might not be about the fish.
OK, that’s enough for one session. In our next session, we’ll explore how this all makes you feel. Don’t worry Wade, we’ll get you straightened out. The only one on this forum that I haven’t’ been able to help is BrianK, but in my defense he’s a catfisherman, so he was too far gone to save, really.
Grouse