Randy…. sorry to hear this. I think as said, just being there. He needs to be able to suffer through some of it on his own, away from his daughters. Guessing he will do all he can to keep things together for them… but he needs time away to heal as well, and so he can do that. It takes a long time, and part of a person never moves on…. just the way it is. Help his daughters, maybe by spending time with you and your own. He will be better seeing them being ok, and knowing they are being cared for. That time will help him for sure.
A side note, as a life long rider…. I can’t imagine if I was involved in an accident that took my wife’s life. We’ve even talked about it. A rider takes on some sort of responsibility, and mental acceptance that the thing he loves doing has potential risk. You at times have to shut the fear of it off…. a little denial. Accepting that risk for someone else as a passenger is huge, and a real fear with anyone in the front seat of a bike. Again, it may get shut off, but there will be some huge sense of responsibility there…. far more than in a car, because of the up-front denial, and assumed acceptance of that risk. That will be another real big hurdle to work through… and I doubt anyone will be able to help. Look and be there when the huge swings of guilt and emotion come if possible. Those emotions can have huge consequence… depressions is just the beginning. The my fault, and my mistake caused this is scary to deal with. I hope to never be there, but I have seen it enough to think it will possibly be the biggest hurdle he faces.
Be there as you can. Help with his daughters if it works, and know it will take time, and resurface when least expected. Just that point that you are suffering shows how you care, and that is huge.
