ARGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!

OK…Allow me to rant a little please!!
I’ve got 2 daughters, ages 11 and 13. In the past week I have learned the following from them……(Their words,NOT mine!!)

1) They HATE each other and wish the other would move out!!

2) My Wife and I HATE them both…

3) I’m a big meanie ’cause I won’t give them more $$$$….

4) They have to do EVERYTHING around the house…

5) We NEVER let them do anything fun….

6) When they grow up, their kids will NEVER have the rules we have….(Like going to bed at 9 on school nights,keeping bedrooms clean,ETC…)

7) We never buy them ANYTHING cool….(Guess the XBox,Wii,TV’s DVD players,Laptops,Cell Phones,iPads,$80 jeans,ETC don’t count…)

8) I’m too stupid to help with the homework…(Well, this one I agree with…)

9) They do EVERYTHING for their dumb dog…(Other than feeding/watering/picking up after,taking for walks,letting out/in…)

10) The other does NOTHING but pick fights and makes life MISERABLE!!!!

PLEASE TELL ME IT GETS BETTER!!!!!!!
Thanks…I feel better now…

when they are 31 and 33 it will get better. lol.

Welcome to parenthood. It may get better after they are out of high school and college (which you will pay for), and they get a job in the “real world”. Only then will they hate to admit that you “may” have been right a time or two. It will hurt them to say it, but they will. It may be subtle so you will need to listen closely for it.

sorry speaking as a parent to 5 grown kids and 4 grandkids……………NOPE!!!!

The drama and the mood swings are the two of the three main reasons I’m glad we had a baby boy and not a baby girl.

Justin Bieber* is the third.

*Or whoever happens to be “in” in 10 years.

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OK…Allow me to rant a little please!!
I’ve got 2 daughters, ages 11 and 13. In the past week I have learned the following from them……(Their words,NOT mine!!)

1) They HATE each other and wish the other would move out!!

2) My Wife and I HATE them both…

3) I’m a big meanie ’cause I won’t give them more $$$$….

4) They have to do EVERYTHING around the house…

5) We NEVER let them do anything fun….

6) When they grow up, their kids will NEVER have the rules we have….(Like going to bed at 9 on school nights,keeping bedrooms clean,ETC…)

7) We never buy them ANYTHING cool….(Guess the XBox,Wii,TV’s DVD players,Laptops,Cell Phones,iPads,$80 jeans,ETC don’t count…)

8) I’m too stupid to help with the homework…(Well, this one I agree with…)

9) They do EVERYTHING for their dumb dog…(Other than feeding/watering/picking up after,taking for walks,letting out/in…)

10) The other does NOTHING but pick fights and makes life MISERABLE!!!!

PLEASE TELL ME IT GETS BETTER!!!!!!!
Thanks…I feel better now…

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At some point they are moving out……..aren’t they.

One of my 4 daughters while in her teens said some bad things to me. When she reached about 19 she looked me straight in the eye she said “Dad I am sorry I said those things” I had completely forgotten about it she had felt sorry but just could not find words to express her feelings. Because we are a blended family, she got together with the family attorney and had her last name changed to mine. She laid the paper work in my hands and started to cry. Short answer about 5 or 6 years.

I had 4 step daughters and my experience was pretty much like yours and even with the approaching mid thirties, i’ve still not seen much change, at least in attitude toward me. Pretty much given up hope. Wouldn’t change much about how i raised them. Two would have been dead without me, literally.

Now, my genetic child is wonderful, but we’re just at 7.25 now. Not looking forward to 12+ or even 10+ these days. I shut down TV and cable and that’s helping a lot. “Outside, Play in the Yard” has become my mantra. Making applesauce this weekend…

Mine yelled a few things at me too and I think alot of them grow out of it. Maybe if you started pushing the work word, like them getting a job as soon as they can. My daughter started working at 15 and she calmed way down. She never looked back and will do anything for us, my sons the same way because I started him working early. Maybe mowing the grass or doing anything for a few bucks might gradually change thier minds and get them in a more productive mode. I’ve been there so your not alone. If they want any money find something for them to do, sweep the garge floor etc. Hope this helps and it does get better.

Just tell them flat out that you and your wife do the best you can so they have everything they need and most of the things they want and that you love them even though they say horribly mean things to you. If that doesn’t change their tone tell them they are adopted and will be returned to their biological parents in the morning, assuming they are out of prison.

Ps. Just wait until all the women in the house are on the same cycle. That’s when the real fun begins

Fun already, huh? Wait about 4 years.

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We never buy them ANYTHING cool….(Guess the XBox,Wii,TV’s DVD players,Laptops,Cell Phones,iPads,$80 jeans,ETC don’t count…)

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Maybe that has something to do with it?

Mine will have the same 10 years from now

Sounds like you are doing everything Right.

i have 3 girls. 6,4,10 mo old. this all sounds something to look forward to.

I have 3 boys: 16, 14, and 6, so I cannot relate.

On a side note, my 6 yo loves to play Gears of War with me. He’s been playing 360 and PS3 ever since he was 4 with his big brothers.

I hear you greg having 3 grown daughters myself.

But here a few good things:

1. Less expensive car insurance when they begin to drive.

2. All the extra help you get when the boyfriends start to show up.

3. Being so proud when your daughter outshoots her boyfriend deer hunting.

4. Seeing your daughter get a title like Fairest of the Fair, Princess Kay of the Milky Way, Wisconsin’s Alice in Dairyland.

5. Looking forward to walking her down the aisle which I will get to do for the 1st time on Oct. 29th.

Good things come to those who wait.

I was just telling someone the other day—the best part about daughters is————son-in-laws!!!! Son-in-laws are like sons only you did not have to pay their car insurance or lay awake worrying about them when they were younger. As far as daughters go—some will grow out of it and some will have that attitude their whole lives or at least that is my experience. I am blessed with one daughter who gets how hard I tried—no matter how many mistakes I made. My other still blames me for everything wrong in her life when she is having a bad day. All you can do is enjoy the good moments and realize—-YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND GIRLS!!!!!

My 19 year old daughter calls all the time…

…when she needs something.

Girls are easier the FIRST 10 yrs
Boys are easier the NEXT 10 yrs

I’d intended to have my stepdaughter read this thread last night after dinner. Instead,she had some questions left unanswered after her social studies class.

We discussed politics and economics for almost 2 hours.

She’s an extremely bright girl. At one point she laughed and said “I know it’s the logic of a 12 year old,but…why can’t we just print more money?”

We butted heads all summer,and neither of us are quite certain why. Someone once told me that “drama” is a necessary part of a teenage girl’s life. If there isn’t any,they create it themselves.

I had to laugh one day when my son told me I had no clue what it was like to be in 6th grade.
DT

I have 6 year old twin boys and they both get upset and tell me they wish I wasn’t their dad. That hurts until they give me a big hug at bedtime. Daughters are much harder in my opinion. My boys are currently finding great joy in seeing who can punch the other the hardest. They go from hating each other to best friends and back again in less than a 5 minutes.

A little fussing, fighting, and lack of cooperation is no big deal. It can be very aggravating; but there are much worse things you could be dealing with.

dd

My 30 year old daughter is getting a divorce to marry a 18 year old.

Exactly! That is much worse. Sorry to hear that sir.

dd

It will get better, but for now just know that as Parents you are stupid, not cool, oh and you don’t know anything!
and they are the smartest teenagers in the world right now! Oh, and you’re not cool (did I say that already?) They still love you though deep down inside

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7) We never buy them ANYTHING cool….(Guess the XBox,Wii,TV’s DVD players,Laptops,Cell Phones,iPads,$80 jeans,ETC don’t count…)

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You are kidding me right. You spoil them and with your own admission you do not take the time to teach them and you complain about their reaction.

Was that really necessary,’Weed?

1) There is almost no single hot-button issue more inflammatory than the criticism of one’s parenting style.

2) His post was a somewhat light-hearted lament on teenage girls. There was no reason to go serious….I’m sure his post and the entire thread was enjoyed by many: I have no doubt he will think twice before posting anything similar in the future.

3) No-where did he say he “did not take the time to teach them” anything. You made that assumption. Posting it was unnecessary and confrontational.

I am a parent with limited financial means. We do not spoil our children,yet they have many of those “luxury” items mentioned. Some are gifts at Christmas or birthdays,some bought with their own money,and some are “family” items….and gifts from grandparents are pretty much out of a parents control unless it’s truly worth fighting over.

(BTW,grandparents giving our kids money – or blatantly overpaying for jobs – drives me nuts. It undermines our efforts to teach financial responsibility but ya gotta pick yer battles…)

The sweet thing about all that “stuff” is it can always be taken away,or doled out in limited amounts. For example,right now my stepson is without videogame priveledges during the week,limited to 1/2 hour/day on weekends. Weekend gaming is the first privelidge to go…My stepdaughter’s ipod has been taken away…and they both bought those items with money they saved.

One reason I like this site is that there’s less confrontation,less sniping,less BS than on similar outdoor websites. Taking the opportunity to criticize how a man is raising his daughters based on that one post is uncalled for.

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It will get better, but for now just know that as Parents you are stupid, not cool, oh and you don’t know anything!
and they are the smartest teenagers in the world right now! Oh, and you’re not cool (did I say that already?) They still love you though deep down inside

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Exactly. And this is what we need to use to our advantage. Our 14 year old son was getting in trouble in school for not keeping his shirt tucked in. We talked to him, explained why they have the rule and gave him more than enough examples one where and why dress codes are used. No dice, he just wasnt going to go along with it. This is where the wife and I had to pull out the big guns and get this minor issue settled. We started showing up at his school to check up on him and even go as far as tucking in his shirt if needed. 2 trips to school and addressing this in front of all of his friends and this was a done deal. At one point he told us it keeps coming undone while he sits at his desk. Told him no problem. My wife offered to sit in class with him to keep a eye on it.

Hope all of our issues go this easy.