Hey bigpike run ground wires on the connector too, I had issues myself just grounding through the hitch, funny that I normally never see those white wires hooked up, but I’ve hooked them all on all my trailers now. I cleaned every ground connection with a dremel on the trailer to bare metal. A spent all day doing that once, and I hooked it up to the truck to check out my work and nothing…. I didn’t actually put it on the ball just connected the wires… That when I remember and realize that I was grounded through the ball and hitch and wired the ground wires on the connected problems solved.
I also used outdoor extention cord as my new wire to wires the lights and it would take an ugly act of god to break through and short that wire out
If you worked on the trailer, I’d probably be leaning toward the truck as the issue. Most truck have 2 fuse locations one inside under the dash and one upfront under the hood, fuses in both locations can give you problems.
When in doubt I got a backup plan too I got some of these http://www.northerntool.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_6970_19177_19177 (usually you can find cheaper models, but you get the idea) and a lighter plug to power the running lights. Here in MN you only running lights on a trailer I believe with blinker lights, IIRC atleast if you can see the taillights/blinkers of the tow truck. Can’t remember all the specfics (so I’d consult the real laws before you try to tell some officer “some guy on the internet said” ). I think as long as you have running lights you’re ok. I’m sure that’s not your goal, but still…